I was talking to a colleague today who was concerned over the views held by someone higher up in the organizational chart about her. You see that manager has an opinion of the type of person she is and it is impacting her opportunities for a different position within the company. I have been in a similar position in the past, being stereotyped in some of my abilities. I always fought it, worked hard to change, who I was because I thought to succeed I had to fit a certain mold. That the only way to get ahead was to be the type of person everyone said I had to be. But the harder I tried the worse it got. I came to realize that who I am is not really going to change. There are things about who I am that I continue to work at to improve, but I'm never going to be great at all things. Rather than fighting to change myself, you would think I should change people's opinions. But the funny thing is that you usually can't change a persons opinion, any more than you can change who you are at the core. That first impression someone forms of you lasts, probably much longer than you would like. Rather than change the persons opinion, I say embrace it and determine how you are going to succeed at what you want. Never let anyone say you can't do something. If it is what you truly want, go after it. When someone says a flaw in your character, which we all have, is going to prevent you from doing well in a job or anything else in life, don't fight it by trying to remove that weakness. Instead focus on what your strengths are that will help you succeed despite your weaknesses. The great thing about an opinion is that everyone is entitled to one. The other great thing is that you never have to listen to them.